Setting the seder table

Aside from being a wonderful image of a seder table, what else does this inspire? And how do we make this work in practical terms?

Ever since friends gave us a bag of plagues (small plush representations of the 10 plagues), we’ve set those out for each person to have one at the start of the seder. When the time comes to read the list of plagues, each person with that plague (and we’ve learned it helps to pass them out in order in case you can’t tell the difference between the plush cattle disease and the plush wild beasts) lifts up that plague, or throws that plague at an image of Pharaoh on the couch. This does something to make more concrete the idea of a series of plagues. Throwing the plagues at Pharaoh is satisfying, but also a bit dangerous with all the wineglasses around. Perhaps a tall glass cylinder vase that the plagues get stacked into? Yes, with a Pharaoh at the bottom that the plagues are all piling on top of.


Were the plagues against Pharaoh or against the Egyptians? That’s a huge discussion, and an important one to have. There are issues of how nations can be led, how people are judged for the behavior of their leaders and how they might try to exercise influence or control over their leaders, the appropriateness of collective punishment, etc. Whenever you choose an illustration, you risk reducing ambiguity and imagination. Perhaps a two-sided plush showing Pharaoh on one side and Egypt on the other? The summative nature of the series of plagues works in either case, and the clear glass borders of the cylinder vase emphasize that the plagues were specific in their application to the Egyptians and yet meant to be seen as a lesson to other nations.

What else can we have props for on the seder table? A burning bush candle? Baby Moses in a small reed basket on wheels that we send down the Blutrack Nile? A motorized lazy susan to represent wandering lost in the desert? Or along those lines, perhaps some figures hanging off the ceiling fan blades with a sign pointing North and a question mark as the ceiling fan slowly turns? Surely some of these might spark more conversation than why there’s an egg (or an orange) on the seder plate.

Life update

House: still broken. Nothing repaired in the past 4 months, and the main sewer line has backed up into the basement 3 times.

House insurance: Finally settled our insurance claim, after 8 months of fighting the insurance company. Original $17K offer turned into $55K, which was a rather substantial improvement. Thanks to friends and family who offered advice about how to deal with the horrible lying scum who our insurance company forced us to deal with.

Cars: Working. Still liking the new car. Just haven't had time to take it to the body shop to get the minor damage from December repaired.

Dog: Only one trip to the vet, which turned out to be a toenail problem. Thank God for easy.

Health: Not ok. Time-consuming and frustrating. David is recovering from major surgery, with more to come later this year.

Health insurance: About 3 hours a week managing this for the past few months, but it’s now mostly done for the rest of 2016 thanks to the crazy number of claims in February. Mostly time-consuming rather than frustrating.

Lisa’s work: Ok! This remains a bright spot, which is huge.

Michael’s work: Not ok!

Temple board: I failed to have any impact on the board or the Temple, but I feel good about having tried my best. Joining was the right thing to do, and stepping back now is as well.

David: Rowdy, not listening well. Lots of joy, lots of frustration, flipping back and forth repeatedly within minutes. Lots of sweet moments.

David’s preschool: We have a new one for next year, and we have notified the current one that we will not be returning. Good to have the decision made, and we have heard great reports from other parents who have used the new preschool.

City government: I’m pretty sure anarchy would provide better municipal services. But we had one tangible victory when the city made the dangerous two-way street by our house into a one-way street and eventually put up sufficient signage to convince drivers that they had made the change.

Search for where to live: Difficult and slow. We cannot afford the places we like, we don’t like the places we can afford. For place, read both house and community.

Hobbies, friends: Improving. I read a book. I’ve seen a few friends.

Settling debts

Somewhere in Palatine, Illinois, an envelope will arrive tomorrow bearing our final mortgage payment to Ditech Financial. It has been a long 18 years of payments on this very old house, watching the balance decline to a point where one little insurance settlement does the trick and now we own the place.

It came at a cost. We have not kept up with the gradual decline of the house. The kitchen and bathroom have both missed at least two generations of remodeling. Cheap building materials from the early 1970s were not intended to last this long, and they haven’t. Refinancing the house 5 or 10 years ago to pull money out to do sensible remodels and repairs would have been a fine choice, and it’s a choice that we watched plenty of friends make. Somehow we never got organized enough with plans to do that ourselves. Maybe next year.

So I know this stage won’t last long. We’ll have to borrow money on the house again to do necessary repairs over the next couple of years, or we’ll move to another place and take out a new mortgage. And with taxes and utilities and insurance, the mortgage was less than half of our monthly house expenses anyway, not counting the inevitable repairs. But we decided many years ago that it would be nice to pay off our mortgage if we did stay in the house, and we kept our eye on that ball, and here we are.

I’m also keenly aware that we are incredibly lucky. I bought this house back when an entire house near Boston was only $225,000. The lack of lending standards back then that eventually destroyed our economy also allowed me to “qualify” for a mortgage in the first place. Our income has been stable enough that we never had to miss payments, and we didn’t run into some other crisis that meant missing payments.

Despite the contemporary view that it’s gauche (not just rare) to have a mortgage burning party, I want to celebrate our good luck. After all, graduations and weddings and even birthdays depend on luck as well. I remember my parents burning copies of their mortgage documents in the fireplace. It was the one and only time they ever used the fireplace in the house I grew up in. I’m thinking I’ll use my Weber grill instead, the one made by Weber-Stephen Products of Palatine, Illinois. For just one blazing minute, let them be the Palatine company to hold our mortgage instead.

The magic number is 10

A Conservative shul with an enormous membership might have weekday services every morning and every evening. A Conservative shul with a tiny membership might have services on Shabbat with no regular weekday services. Regardless of the number of services, each service requires a minyan of 10 Jewish adults.

My Conservative shul has a typical membership: neither enormous nor tiny, but smaller than it once was. The interests of that membership in daily services has waxed and waned, and is presently at that awkward point where not enough people show up to guarantee a minyan, but too many people show up to have it be clearly pointless to hope for a minyan. That awkward number is reinforced by minyan game theory, in particular the minyaner’s dilemma.

If you are not personally committed to going to the service, but you definitely want to go to the service if by doing so you will be the 10th adult so that the service can happen, then you need to know how many other people are definitely going and how many other people are in your position. Assume there are not quite enough regulars to make a minyan. The more irregulars there are, the greater the chance that enough of the irregulars will show up to make a minyan without you showing up. But all of the irregulars are in the same position, and they are each making the same guess about the behavior of the others. When there are not enough regulars, the difference between a sustainable service and an unsustainable service is not actually how good the congregation is at probability. The difference is how the irregulars feel about being the 12th or 14th adult at the service. You need to feel really good about that in order to typically have enough of a cushion that when the usual variation in attendance happens (due to weather, illness, vacations, or key sporting events on television) you don’t often drop below 10.

There are probably ways to affect this by building in escalating rewards. With 10 adults we get to have the service. With 12 adults we get to have dessert afterwards. With 14 adults we get to have a beer afterwards, or we all get party yarmulkes. Or we could skip the party yarmulkes and just act as excited about the 14th person showing up as we do about the 10th person showing up. After all, that 14th person showing up today is what makes it far more likely that the 10th person will show up next week.

My shul gave up on daily weekday services some years ago. Now there’s just a Wednesday evening service each week, with a Thursday evening service added once a month when there’s a board meeting on Thursday evening. Most of the regulars who want a weekday service just come on Wednesdays now. Not enough board members want to go to a service before the board meeting to reliably make a minyan, so as board members we were recently asked whether we want to continue having a service before board meetings. To encourage honest answers, we were told that all answers were ok. Some people said no, some people said they already show up and are frustrated that there isn’t a minyan, some people said yes but they would not personally show up for it, and not enough people said that they had not been showing up and would start showing up regularly. After reading the responses, I thought the conclusion would be that we should stop having the Thursday evening service. Instead we were scolded over email for our wrong answers, and we heard extensive lectures at the next board meeting about the importance of worship services, the importance of community, and the obligation of supporting synagogue functions that we are not interested in so that other people will support the functions that we are interested in.

Aside from the inanity of a group of volunteers being subjected to self-righteous scolding, there was no attempt to examine how far this logic would go. If I am interested in 5 synagogue functions a month and there are 50 to choose from, how many am I obligated to show up at? 10? 30? All 50? Is there any limit to how many daily services we should hold despite a sufficient lack of interest in actually showing up? When I go to a function I’m not interested in, how clear do I need to make it that I’m not interested in being there in order to satisfy the people who need to know that other people are making sacrifices so that more functions can happen? If I go to 10 functions that I don’t want to go to each month, and then I start enjoying 3 of those functions, do they no longer count?

I can see going to a service out of religious obligation or community obligation. I can see a lot of valid reasons to go that do not require me to be delighted to be there. But what I heard at the board meeting is that my attendance at the service will be valued only if my heart clearly is not in it. That seems like a terrible paradigm for a religious service and a destructive model to create for the next generation. I’d rather go back to the party yarmulkes idea.

Speaking up

This is me speaking up, right here and right now.

I grew up being told that people, you and me and every single one of us, have an obligation to speak up in the face of a new Hitler.

Being on guard in a country that perpetually denies its own history is difficult. America displays not just the typical national exceptionalism which refuses examples from the history of other nations, but an exceptionalism that divorces discussion of our present and future from our own past. “It could never happen here,” the decades-long rallying cry of the American chattering classes, is an evidence-free optimism that has no rational justification and unfortunately forestalls reasoned discussion of how to safeguard our country from a future some of us now see ourselves hurtling towards.

We must not wait for mass graves and concentration camps with gas chambers. We must be watchful for public figures who seek to create and exploit divisions, who advocate hatred and violence based on those divisions, and who do not welcome limits on their individual power or on governmental power. We must treat those public figures warily, we must look askance at their followers and cheerleaders, and we must work to make sure that they do not achieve political power because a political movement based on those premises is dangerous.

Trump and his followers have formed precisely that movement.

This is me, speaking up, while I can.

The members of my extended family who ultimately escaped Hitler’s Germany recalled how he started out seeming ridiculous to the educated classes even in Germany, whether liberal or conservative. He was an object of derision, a clown, a shouting lunatic who could never achieve power.

But millions of bodies, among them many who knew that “it could never happen here,” were ground into dust beneath the boots of the Third Reich. So inevitably was the national conscience of what had been an enlightened country.

We are not so enlightened a country. We do not have as far to fall, and it will not necessarily take us as long.

Trump and his supporters do not regret the increasing violence at his rallies; they rejoice in it. That should be enough to remove them from serious consideration as a political force, because we are supposed to have limits on free speech precisely to stop demagogues from inciting immediate violence. Our press has chosen to promote spectacle, however, and we are all suffering for it. We are watching a hateful politics rise to power on the promise of a violently-enforced Christian white supremacy, and our electorate is rewarding every increase in extremist rhetoric.

I have been glad to live in a country where I can often worship freely, where I am often free to hold minority political views, where I can often freely associate with anyone I choose, where I can say and write and publish many things that I choose to say and write and publish. And I have been glad to live in a country where those who have different faiths and different opinions and different friends also enjoy those freedoms. Trump and his supporters do not value that diversity. In fact, the only unifying principle of Trump’s movement is a forceful rejection of that diversity. Trump’s domestic and foreign policy choices, when expressed coherently, change with a frequency that is usually only possible in dream sequences. But even if those choices congeal into a semi-solid state—even if his followers all adopt those choices as their own—the founding principle of Trump’s movement is hatred and violence, and the mechanisms of violence and hatred are how they will seek to enforce those choices.

Perhaps we will not elect Trump. But he has poisoned our national well of discourse deeply, his followers have drunk far too deeply, and remediation will take a generational change.

I hope for better than our present for my child and yours.

This is me, speaking up. I encourage you to speak up as well.

So hard to keep track of who Edgepark hates

We have employer-sponsored commercial health insurance for our family, which is lovely. Cigna is a kind and benevolent group of control freaks who tell us exactly what sorts of medical care we are allowed to receive (benefits limitations, prior authorizations, medical reviews, etc.) and who we can use as providers (network limitations).

So when we need medical supplies or medical equipment, Cigna gives us a very short list of companies we are allowed to order from. One of those companies is Edgepark.

Edgepark refuses to sell to customers in a number of states when those customers have Medicaid as secondary insurance. Medicaid helps a lot of people with lower incomes, and Edgepark’s billing department was quite clear that they don’t want customers like that. “People like that are often on fixed incomes,” Edgepark’s billing department supervisor says, and expects me to understand that people like that are undesirable.

My son is 4. His fixed income is $0, as is the case for many 4-year-olds. Despite that, I don’t actually understand why he is undesirable. I think he’s quite cute. More importantly, he is insured.

There are a lot of levels of insanity and frustration here:

(1) We have already hit our son’s out-of-pocket maximum for the year with Cigna, so Cigna would pay Edgepark at 100%. Cigna can confirm this to Edgepark. There would not be any remainder to bill to any secondary insurance or to the customer. Yet Edgepark is very concerned about not being able to collect the $0 balance after Cigna pays them 100% of the contracted amount.

(2) We should be able to decline to use our secondary insurance, and I tried that. I offered to provide full payment for anything that Cigna does not cover. Edgepark says that’s not possible. Why exactly am I not allowed to decline a benefit? The offer of a handout from the state suddenly comes with handcuffs that are not removed even if I decline the handout.

(3) Medicaid as secondary insurance will only cover providers that are in network with our primary insurance, even if there are no such providers. They add no provider options. Instead they remove provider options, even when they are not involved in the financial transaction at all.

(4) Cigna offers no network adequacy exceptions for medical supplies. If there is no cardiologist within 50 miles who is in network, Cigna will let you see an out-of-network cardiologist. That isn’t true with medical supplies, for which Cigna does not recognize any obligation to have any providers in network. But even if they did, they say that Edgepark is technically an option for us to use even if Edgepark refuses to accept our orders.

(5) Edgepark will not bill our insurance and ship the order after they have been paid in full by our primary insurance, or even by us. It is so important to refuse to do business with people who have Medicaid as secondary insurance that even receiving full payment up front would not be enough to overcome Edgepark’s moral objections to poor people and disabled people.

(6) Medicaid is such a persistent stigma for Edgepark that if they get even a hint of Medicaid on a potential customer, they put a block on the account and refuse to remove the Medicaid information.

(7) Edgepark is so concerned about someone with secondary Medicaid possibly concealing that fact and paying on their own that Edgepark hides its own policy about this when signing up potential customers. Remember, it’s not about the money. It’s about not contaminating your customer pool with the wrong sort of people.

What would be different if Edgepark were refusing to do business with black people? It might help to know that 22% of people covered by Medicaid are black, while only 13% of the US population is black. But that’s ok with Cigna (the folks who decide what providers we have to choose from at all); black Medicaid customers can always shop at Byram instead of Edgepark. It doesn’t matter that Byram randomly cancels orders, is frequently back-ordered, doesn’t offer samples, and has fewer product choices. After all, the problem with “separate but equal” was probably the equal part, right?

I’m sure this is fixable. Edgepark could develop a corporate conscience. Cigna could decide to pressure their providers to accept all of their customers, even if they might be poor. We could change the law to say that providers who are willing to be “in network” for a plan must accept all customers who have that plan. We could change the law to say that providers who are willing to be “in network” for any plan must accept Medicare and Medicaid. We could improve societal attitudes towards poor people.

I don’t see any of that happening. Do you?

Playground notes

Places we have tried

Robbins Farm Park, Arlington

very long slide, lots of structures, peaceful even when moderately crowded

Joey’s Park, Belmont

zip line, huge connected walkway structure

Places to try

Alexander Kemp Playground, Cambridge

natural playground

Nelson Park, Plymouth

on the water

Dacey Community Field, Franklin

huge handicap-accessible

Tadpole Playground, Boston Common

Lincoln Elementary School, Lincoln

rubbery surface

Action Cove Playground, West Newbury

wooden fort structure, small zip line

Stanley Park, Westfield

waterwheel and duck pond

Esplanade Playspace, Boston

Thomas Menino Park, Charlestown

Revenue stream

I was distressed at the ritual committee meeting today to learn that the Conservative Movement’s Committee on Jewish Law and Standards had recently decided that it’s now ok for Conservative Jews to eat kitniyot during Passover. The common five grains like wheat are still prohibited, but corn on the cob can start showing up on the seder table. I don’t mind other people making that choice, but I’m feeling a bit lost in this modern world.

Leaving aside the fact that the ruling managed to work in polygamy, the most entertaining aspect of the ruling was learning that back when pottery dishes were reasonably inexpensive, the common practice was to destroy all of your pottery dishes for the start of Passover and buy a new set to use for Passover and then the coming year. Spring cleaning writ noisy.

When I started buying ritual Judaica, I was excited to find so many choices and to be able to choose pieces that spoke to me. I could have a menorah that I loved, and Shabbat candlesticks, and a treasured tallis from Lisa, and a few other things, and then suddenly I was done. There are only so many ritual items you need. Sure, another menorah occasionally enters our life when we find ourselves in Florida with a newborn at the start of Chanukah, but mostly we’re reduced to choosing pretty candles for Shabbat and Chanukah.

It’s a problem that the Judaica industry must also feel. A Miriam’s Cup for the Passover table is a recent addition, and gives each family a chance to search for a new item as well as being a step towards improving gender equality in the tradition. Still, it’s only one more item to find, and then we’re done again.

So I propose a new tradition: the sacrificial dish for the start of Passover, an item which must be purchased each year. It should have a decoration or design related to chametz, and should ideally be used for at least one family meal before the start of Passover. To celebrate the beginning or ending of cleaning the house for Passover, the entire family can gather around and smash the sacrificial dish. I don’t know if there should be a blessing, a song, or a reading to accompany the ceremony, or simply a moment of calm reflection on all that has happened since the previous Passover before the required ritual destruction. Now we do as our ancestors did in ancient times and destroy this dish to prepare for celebrating the Passover.

And if an annual shopping expedition for a sacrificial dish is not enough, surely every family now needs a ritual hammer with which to smash the sacrificial dish.

Looks like a nice day to play ball

This image is a clear way of illustrating the difference between equality and equity. Should each of the three fans be given the same box to stand on, or should each be given what they need to be able to see?

But look a little further than the foreground, and the image raises far more questions. Should these three fans be relegated to peering over an outfield wall while the more affluent white fans are welcome in the ballpark? Or is my assumption of the racial makeup in the stands colored by living in Boston?

There is no pretense of equality or equity in what we pay the professional athletes vs. what we pay anyone else in the ballpark. Thousands of people want to come watch these athletes play ball, while nobody wants to watch me edit pdf files. How should pay reflect that? Aside from establishing minimum salaries, how do equality and equity factor into collective bargaining? And since the entire ballpark was built with taxpayer financing, what sort of public access should there be?

Illustrators and designers routinely have their work ripped off, devalued, and undervalued, while content distributors, internet service providers, and hardware and software companies rake in huge amounts of money. Doesn’t distributing an image for free perpetuate that inequity?

Rally for the home team

There are 329 state-funded local cultural councils in Massachusetts. There are between 2 and 4 statewide awards each year for LCCs, so if they are randomly distributed across all of the LCCs, any particular LCC should expect to receive an award roughly once every 110 years.

Next month, Medford is receiving its 4th statewide award in the past 9 years. That’s not random. In fact, it’s unprecedented.

(One of the projects we funded when I was on the LCC also won a statewide Gold Star Award, so we’re getting recognition for actual programs as well.)

Medford has had a good number of very active and talented volunteers. That’s part of it. Medford’s city government decided to support the LCC financially, which many cities and towns do not do. That’s also part of it. Medford’s arts organizations and business organizations formed a productive coalition to make the arts more visible in Medford, and that’s part of it. But it’s all hard to reconcile with a city that let one of the largest capacity live theaters in the Boston area rot for decades, a city that blatantly refused to help find a home for a local arts center, a city that allowed a premier dance center to go permanently dark directly across the street from City Hall, a city that cannot seem to support a single bookstore or a single art gallery.

There will always be contradictions, and perhaps art thrives in the spaces where contradictions thrive. But there’s an exciting story to tell here if the new Medford administration wants to promote Medford as a home for the arts.

Not running a synagogue

Paul Levy, when he was president and CEO of Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston, had a blog called “Running A Hospital.” His blog provided some insights into how a hospital CEO viewed various aspects of running a hospital. Then he resigned, and continued his blog with a name change to “Not Running A Hospital.”

Last year I joined my synagogue’s board and gradually discovered that the board has no serious involvement in running the synagogue. Day to day operations cannot be the charge of a group that only meets once a month, but in principle a board could make policy decisions. I suspect the board I’m on is a vestigial remnant of some past time when the board did make such policy decisions, but over time the role of the board has, um, changed? Withered? Atrophied? Fled to Florida?

Let me be clear: I like rituals, and Judaism is full of rituals. Those rituals provide structure and comfort, and allow layers of meaning to both encrust themselves and reveal themselves over lifetimes of experience. Those rituals allow connections within the world today and to generations past and future. The rituals evolve, participation ebbs and flows, and still they provide a deep continuity.

But monthly board meetings as ritual? Incantations of calling the meeting to order and asking for committee reports don’t do it for me. Please join us as we rise on line 12 of the youth group proposed budget and say together, “Thank you for not needing us to do anything or decide anything.” No, I’m ok with skipping that service.

So being on the board has left me more informed about the various decisions that we’re not making. It has sparked plenty of conversations about how synagogue policies could be different, but few of those conversations have happened with other board members and none have had any hope of implementation. With no expectation of affecting actual policies at present, I might as well focus on organizing my thoughts about how policies could be different and why they should be different. And perhaps at some point in the future, I can be a useful part of a team that is running a synagogue.

Correcting gaps in our synagogue membership categories

Because the congregation must be financially viable to survive as a congregation, it is easy for the leadership to focus on membership as a means of maximizing dues. Because we live in a consumerist society, it is easy for individuals and families to focus on minimizing dues (and an easy way is to avoid becoming a member). This focus on dues distracts us from the important aspects of the congregation: community, education, worship, and tikkun olam. We need to focus on building and supporting a meaningful community, make it clear that membership is an important statement of belonging to our community, and ensure that there are no obstacles to becoming and remaining members of our community.

Our synagogue’s current membership policy as spelled out in the bylaws clearly works for the many individuals and families who are members. Unmarried Jewish adults can be individual members, and families where at least one adult is Jewish and all adults in the family are committed to the goals of the congregation can be family members. This leaves a couple of gaps. If an adult wants to be a member but their spouse does not, that adult has no membership option. If a family includes a Jewish child but no Jewish adult (as can happen through death or divorce), that family has no membership option.

We can correct the first gap (when an adult wants to be a member but their spouse does not) by striking the word “unmarried” from the description of individual membership. We should also make it clear that an individual member is welcome to become a family member at any point when a partner or child would also like to be a member.

We can correct the second gap (when a family includes a Jewish child but no Jewish adult) by changing the definition of family membership to be a family where at least one adult or child is Jewish, rather than requiring at least one Jewish adult. It takes courage for a non-Jewish adult to raise a child in Judaism, and we should provide every support rather than turn them away. We want them to feel welcome in our congregation as a family and be able to participate in congregational life. We want the child to attend Hebrew School and to become Bar or Bat Mitzvah. We should open our doors, not close them.

There are good reasons to require family membership for a child to attend Hebrew School and to become Bar or Bat Mitzvah. It reinforces a model of community participation and belonging and ensures greater financial support for the congregation. But that membership requirement should not be a litmus test that some families are not allowed to pass.

If asked, we would make exceptions to our written rules to accommodate individual requests. But rather than exclude some prospective members and then depend on them being willing to ask for exceptions, we should amend our rules so that we can be as welcoming as possible.

Cummings Park

I’ve lived directly next door to Cummings Park for over 17 years. Cummings Park is a small city-owned playground (also called a tot lot or pocket park). Over that time, there have been numerous competing groups of park users:

• teenagers drinking and vandalizing the playground structures (primarily at night)
• dog owners using it as a dog park so their dogs can exercise and go to the bathroom
• adults shooting heroin (primarily at night)
• young children using it as a playground

As with any public space, there are many individual occasional uses as well: birthday parties, geocaching, people doing yoga or tai chi, adults reading or chatting, etc. The only problematic uses are the ones that are incompatible with the intended primary use as a playground for young children (dog run, alcohol and drugs, smoking, and vandalism) or are incompatible with the park being directly next door to people’s homes (noise at night, fires, or golf balls).

There are signs saying that most of those problematic uses are not allowed, but the signs are largely ignored because they are never enforced. Even the huge new "NO DOGS ALLOWED" signs at both entrance gates are often ignored because there is no enforcement mechanism.

For the first decade that I lived next door to Cummings Park, it was a constant source of problems and was seldom used by young children. One week about 7 or 8 years ago, the city finally repaired the vandalized structures and removed the graffiti, the police started occasionally reminding people that the park is closed at night, and families started donating toys to the playground. A number of significant changes happened:

• young children and families started using the playground in far greater numbers
• vandalism mostly stopped
• drinking and drug use in the playground was greatly reduced (as measured by the far lower number of empty bottles and empty needles left in the playground)

The donated toys were a huge part of that turn-around. They encourage families to use the playground and extend the play options for young children. They helped Cummings Park become a destination playground for families who live closer to other parks. They were an asset to the two separate family day cares that both use the playground. And even when the playground is not in use by young children, the presence of the donated toys sends a clear signal that the playground is actively used by young children.

Local musician Matt Heaton even wrote a song about the donated toys in Cummings Park, titled “Outside Toys”.

If you never saw the range of toys donated to Cummings Park, you might not understand the full range of toys that passed through there: shovels and pails, balls, toy trucks and construction vehicles, ride-on toys, walk-behind toys, Cozy Coupes, scooters and tricycles and the occasional bicycle, several play kitchens and plastic slides, little basketball poles, toy lawnmowers, and most recently a plastic gas pump that allowed kids to pretend to be gassing up the various play vehicles.

Here’s a selection of the smaller toys in Cummings Park last year:

Toys eventually wear out, and several park neighbors took responsibility for periodically sorting through the toys and throwing out the broken ones. We also repaired toys when possible, inflated balls and bicycle tires, and worked with the parks department to report wear and damage to the permanent play structures. Mike Nestor at the parks department has been a real ally for years in working with us to keep Cummings Park in good shape to be used by young children and families.

It was, therefore, horrifying to see that the city last week abruptly removed every single donated toy in Cummings Park. This apparently happened around the same time in many or all city playgrounds. There was no warning, no notification, no opportunity for public input, and apparently no recourse. To replace the toys in Cummings Park alone would cost thousands of dollars, and people will be far more reluctant to donate toys when they expect that the city will arbitrarily confiscate them all again at any moment. Cummings Park is now far less appealing and useful for many families who want to use it as a playground. Instead, Cummings Park now looks barren and abandoned, which is exactly the sort of appearance that will lead to an increase in problematic uses of the playground. In a matter of days, it led to a noticeable increase in the use of the playground as an off-leash dog park.

There is widespread frustration, disappointment, and anger about the city’s removal of the toys from Cummings Park on local family-oriented Facebook groups. Here are comments from the last few days:

What happened at Cummings park??? We went there today and it was all cleared out!!! The kids were so sad!

Oh no! Sarah's park!!!!!

My kids loved using the toys at that park 

Oh, my boys will be devastated!!! So sad!

So sad! I think people generally do a good job of getting rid of broken toys. I think it's more of an eyesore NOT seeing them 

That is terrible, I can't believe they did that! 

Oh no my girls are gonna be sad next time we drive by. My oldest had a favorite bike that she always rode on. 

My son uses the toys more than the structures. 

Ours too! Heartbreaking. 

So sad! My daughter loves that park and used pretty much everything! When she was learning to walk she could still play. It's our favorite park. Awwww... 

So sad. Bring the toys back 

My daughter played more with the toys there than the structures. She will be so upset. I hope they bring them back. 

Devastating.... my son adored the toys 

It kept the kids happy. Now what? 

My other question is why, and is it just going to happen again if the community replaces them? I'd love to know who made the decision and how to make that person aware of just how unpopular it is. 

I can't believe they got rid of everything without any kind of notification or explanation, it seemed pretty obvious that the toys are used and enjoyed by the children who play there. It actually is the reason why we choose to go to Cummings park over other parks the majority of the time! My boys loved the diggers, dump trucks, etc they could use with the sand and all of the different vehicles there. Hopefully the city will bring them back. 

My daughter always bee lines for the cozy coupe and usually followed that with a session of digging and dumping sand in or with any kind of bucket or container. Small slides are a hit with the littlest ones too - less daunting than then permanent ones. I'm happy to help with this adventure come spring. We love this park! I'm just hoping it's not in vain. Is there any news on whether this is going to be happening repeatedly?

People have reported that Mike Nestor only wanted broken toys to be removed. It is unclear who in the city made the decision to remove ALL the toys, but it is very clear that it was a bad decision and a serious error. This error should be addressed openly, the city should issue a clear apology to the community for this error, the city should explicitly state that donated toys in good condition are allowed in the playgrounds, and the city should replace the toys.

There are several stakeholders who the city should include in any major decisions about Cummings Park:

1. The immediate neighbors of Cummings Park.

2. Sarah Volpe, who has brought her family day care to Cummings Park every day for many years.

3. Andrea Breen at Medford Family Network, who has run the playgroups in the park program for years, is very familiar with many of the city playgrounds, and knows that Cummings Park is in better condition than many because neighbors help care for it.

4. Park users, who can be reached through the Cummings Park Medford Facebook group, the Medford Moms Facebook group, the Medford Family Network mailing list, and signs posted in the park itself.

Here is my list of actions the city should take to improve Cummings Park:

1. Establish some practical enforcement mechanism for the park rules, with police enforcement when necessary to remove dogs and to remove people who are using the park at night.

2. Provide a clear way for park neighbors, community members, and park users to report problematic uses of the park at any hour and get a prompt response.

3. Install “no smoking” signs. This is one of the few actual park rules for which there is no sign.

4. Provide better fencing or containment for the basketball mini-court (which is also sometimes used for hockey and lacrosse), or convert that mini-court into a different use more compatible with being just a few feet from a neighboring home.

5. Clear the sidewalks around Cummings Park in the winter when it snow, and clear a single path through the park itself between the two gates (ensuring that the gates can open).

6. Consider installing water for a bubbler and/or the ability to water new plantings.

7. Consider adding a port-a-potty (as exists at Victory Park) in the corner by the intersection, so that little kids don’t have to use the fence line as their toilet. (This may cause more problems than it solves, but it should at least be discussed.)

8. Hire a new landscape contractor who will mow the grass more than once a month in the summer.

9. Establish a maintenance plan and replacement plan for the park structures. The bouncy bridge on the taller play structure has structural connecting links that are almost worn through, and much of the plastic on the climbing structures is now old enough that it is more prone to break and leave sharp edges. The benches under the gazebo are all bent down at the ends, greatly reducing their usable seating area.

10. Establish a maintenance plan and replacement plan for the park trees and landscaping. Many shrubs have died, the tree warden has confirmed that a number of the trees are unhealthy, and new donated plants cannot survive because there is no on-site water access.

11. Establish a community liaison or two for each city park who can help organize needs and wants for the park, and who can help communicate with the appropriate city employees and with residents and park users.

12. Plan to do regular requests on a schedule for graffiti removal by the Middlesex Sherriff’s Graffiti Removal Unit, which costs the city almost nothing to do. This has been a far less frequent problem at Cummings Park since the donated toys started, but it is an ongoing problem at other parks (and around the city).

13. REPLACE THE TOYS.

8 trips to pharmacies in the past 7 days, plus a few phone calls

Things I’ve learned about epinephrine autoinjectors over the past 7 days:

The market leader is EpiPen, made by Mylan. Every drugstore stocks them, every doctor prescribes them.

The biggest competitor was Auvi-Q, made by Sanofi, which had some real advantages. It was a different shape, hurt a bit less to use, and had nifty talking instructions that helped make it more foolproof. It was recalled last October, and is not yet back on the market. Not every pharmacy knows that it was recalled, and you may still run into a pharmacy that insists that it’s the only alternative to EpiPen, insists that it wasn’t recalled, and is stunned to find that it’s not on their shelf. I’m looking at you, local CVS.

An alternative used to be Adrenaclick. It was pulled from the market in 2014, but the Auvi-Q recall notice states that it is still available as an alternative. It isn’t.

What is “available” is a generic epinephrine autoinjector, with no brand name at all. It’s made by the same company that made Adrenaclick, though they seem to use a different company name for the generic to make things simpler. Many pharmacies insist that the generic does not exist. I have a trainer for it in my hand that was mailed to me last week, but it does not exist. It is supposed to be available to pharmacies from their wholesalers, and insurance companies have pricing for it. I have a prescription for it, but I cannot get it filled. The Auvi-Q recall notice does not acknowledge the existence of the generic.

None of these auto-injectors are considered equivalent, even though they all contain identical medication. A prescription for Auvi-Q is therefore currently useless, because the pharmacy cannot substitute EpiPen for Auvi-Q.

A pharmacy might be able to substitute generic epinephrine autoinjector for Adrenaclick, since they are the exact same device. But first the pharmacy would have to acknowledge that generic epinephrine autoinjector exists.

Many prescriptions for medications are for 30 day supplies. That’s a difficult way of looking at EpiPen, since EpiPen is an emergency medication. We need a bunch so we can leave one at home, take one with us, leave one at preschool, etc. Then we don’t need any for a year, unless we use one and have to immediately replace it.

For most medications that are 30 day supplies, Cigna allows you to refill every 23 days. Cigna allows you to buy 2 boxes of EpiPens at one time, and then makes you wait. But unlike with most other medications, Cigna allows you to refill EpiPens every 2 days. Cigna can also do overrides on the refill limits for various reasons.

For most medications that are 30 day supplies, MassHealth allows you to refill every 24 days. MassHealth allows you to buy 2 boxes of EpiPens at one time, and then makes you wait. But unlike with most other medications, MassHealth allows you to refill EpiPens every 3 days. MassHealth cannot do any overrides on refill limits for any reason. Unless maybe they can if a pharmacist calls the DUR office, but probably not.

EpiPen’s price with Cigna is currently around $550 per box. This is up from $300 per box a couple of years ago, and $100 per box a few years before that.

The generic epinephrine autoinjector is under $400 per box. Cigna will happily pay for either EpiPen or the generic without prior authorization. MassHealth requires prior authorization for the generic, but not for EpiPen.

It’s not clear whether EpiPens and the generic are considered separate drugs or the same in terms of setting quantity limits and calendar limits on filling prescriptions. If you just bought two boxes of EpiPens and would have to wait to buy more, would you also have to wait to buy generics? I don’t know what the answer is, nor what the answer should be. I might try to find out tomorrow.

As of early January 2016, EpiPen expiration dates are pretty consistently February 2017 at both Walgreens and CVS around here.

EpiPen is available in 0.15 or 0.3 dose strengths. The smaller one is called EpiPen Jr., and is for kids under 66 pounds. The larger one is for everyone 66 pounds and up. If you have a prescription for the larger one by mistake, Cigna doesn’t mind if you fill it for a 4-year-old. MassHealth, however, rejects it. It’s not clear what would happen if the larger one were not a mistake.

It’s not clear whether the two dose strengths are considered separate drugs or the same in terms of setting quantity limits and calendar limits on filling prescriptions.

Since our pharmacy deductible is combined with our medical deductible this year, and since EpiPen is $550 per box, David’s $2600 annual deductible is now met as of January 11. Whee.

Dentist possibilities

Dentist possibilities (always check recent yelp reviews)

Brookline Dental Team
http://www.brooklinedentalteam.com/meet-us/meet-dr-myron-bass/
Dr. Hyejin Kwak, Dr. Seth Bozarth, Dr. Khaled El-Rafie, Dr. Myron Bass

Belmont Dental Group
http://www.belmontdental.com/procedures/cosmetic-dentistry/porcelain-onlays.aspx
Dr. James Nager, Dr. John Lapidus

Smiles by Rosie (East Somerville)
http://www.smilesbyrosie.com/
Dr. Rosie Wagner
(Michael went to her for the first time in January 2016 to repair a broken bonding on 9. She was very nice and happy to explain exactly what she was doing. Time will tell on how the bonding lasts, of course.)

Dr. Dale Wetmore, Dr.  David Bloom (Back Bay, Boston)
After 15 years going there, office staff refused to provide a quick copy of an x-ray for an emergency repair (saying they had 30 days to provide records).
Dr. Wetmore is conservative about fillings and cavities, Dr. Bloom is much more aggressive. (Dr. Bloom wanted to do fillings on 18 and 19 in Nov 2015, Dr. Wetmore said there was no need in Dec 2015 when he looked.) I trust Dr. Wetmore when he says something needs to be done because he is generally very conservative about that.
Bonding on 9 broke in 2011, broke in Jan 2014, and needed to be reshaped a bit in spring 2015.

Dr. Russell Forman (Cambridge)
recommended by Joshua and Kyla

Dr Fish at Restorative Dental Group in Cambridge
recommended by Josh, who has had good experiences there in general including some crowns
 
When reading yelp reviews, remember that many people are reviewing either their hygienist experience or billing issues, rather than the dentist.